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Your Questions About How To Find A New Boyfriend

George asks…

What can my boyfriend and I do for New Years?

My boyfriend and I are both 20. What are some fun things we could do to celebrate the new year? We’re not interested in drinking.

New Niche Finder answers:

My boyfriend takes care of everything. We like to dance and we celebrate with friends.

Thomas asks…

what should I expect when my boyfriend stays over?

I’m 17 and have been dating my boyfriend for a few weeks now. He is staying over tomorrow night. We are both kind of shy and taking things slow. What sort of things should I expect/ what are some good things to do (watch movies/ talk/ etc? ) I haven’t had a boyfriend stay over before and i don’t really know what to expect. Any help or tips would be good.

New Niche Finder answers:

This reminds me of when my boyfriend first started sleeping over,our first night we had an all night movie and game night, don’t think of it as a reason you NEED to ‘get down’ there’s no reason why you can’t just be the best friends you are and have fun, instead of anything cliche.

Steven asks…

What are good presents to get your boyfriend?

my boyfriend and i have been dating for two years. ive gotten him clothes hats cologne.. a lot of different things. what are some other presents i could get him for his birthday or christmas?

New Niche Finder answers:

Well it depends on whats he likes and what hes into. I got mine last year tickets to the ranger game, it was his first time to go and he loved it. If your boyfriend is into sports buy him some game tickets as a surprise or you could even stay home and make it like as if your really at a game, get some hot dogs , sodas and put his favorite game shirt on and sit next to him and watch a game and during half time you could rouse the time up.

Linda asks…

what should I expect when my boyfriend stays over?

I’m 17 and have been dating my boyfriend for a few weeks now. He is staying over tomorrow night. We are both kind of shy and taking things slow. What sort of things should I expect/ what are some good things to do (watch movies/ talk/ etc? ) I haven’t had a boyfriend stay over before and i don’t really know what to expect. Any help or tips would be good.

New Niche Finder answers:

Dont listen to that person.

It is completely fine for a boyfriend to stay over and its great your taking things slow. But when i stayed over my boyfriends we did do stuff and its nothing to be scared of. Your 17 its a good age to start things. BUT of course nothing has to happen, watch a film you both enjoy..you love being in eachothers company hugging together. Talk for a bit, flirt all the usual stuff! Dont be scared it will be fine, hope you have a nice night.

David asks…

What are some signs of a jealous or controlling boyfriend?

My boyfriend got mad because I went to a party with my cousin and didn’t call him first. He sent me nasty and ridiculous text messages and went a day without speaking to me. We argued all day today about this via text. So what are some signs to look for when it comes to an insecure or jealous boyfriend?

New Niche Finder answers:

10. Always By Your Side
If you are in a relationship where it seems that you have no time to yourself, chances are you have a controlling boyfriend. He never wants you to go anywhere without him. There is no more “girls night out” for you and your friends, unless he is with you. Doesn’t sound like a good time.

9. Do What He Likes
When you do go out, it is to an event that HE chooses. You may not feel like going to a movie, but it is what he wants to do, for example. Also, his turning down an offer to do what you would like is a key sign that he is not flexible. It often leaves the impression that he does not care about your interests. He may, or may not, but he is not supportive either way.

8. Do Things For Him
“Honey, go pick up some soda for me.” sounds like a genuine request for assistance. If your boyfriend is constantly asking you to run errands, without including you as the benefactor, this is another sign of the need to feel in control. Instead of “…pick up some soda for me.”, the request should be, “We’re out of soda. Can you go pick some up, please?”. Can you see the difference? WE are in need of soda, simply.

7. No Manners
In the previous example, the “please” was left out intentionally. Your boyfriend will not be polite. He will not say “thank you”, “you’re welcome”, “please” or even “excuse me” to you. It is because he is expecting you to comply with his requests. He also feels as if you should be thanking him for allowing you to do things for him.

6. Questions, Questions
When you can finally break through the chains, and find some free time for yourself, be prepared: your controlling boyfriend will interrogate you when you return. Putting himself in a “father figure” position will install more of a sense of control. Treating you like a child that went to the mall, prior to doing her homework, is the kind of humiliation in you he is trying to achieve.

5. No Questions, No Answers
Unlike the aforementioned subject, your boyfriend will come and go as he pleases, without answering to anyone – especially to you. If you try to question his whereabouts or activities, he will become defensive. The subject will immediately transfer from your asking, “where were you?” to his comeback remark about how you nag him too much, or something similar to that effect. He will ignore answering the question, and make you feel guilty for asking it. This is in hope that you will not do it again.

4. He’s Always Right
In an argument with a controlling personality, it is very difficult for him to accept defeat. The controlling boyfriend will get more defensive, change the subject, or bring up a past occurrence, when he was, indeed, correct, in order to prove his point with the issue at hand. He may not always be right, completely, but he is never wrong.

3. Can’t Buy Me Love
Fools gold has been around for centuries. However, a fool AND his gold have special meaning to the controlling boyfriend. He will buy you nice jewelry, take you to expensive restaurants and maybe even offer to pay a debt of yours. He will say it is because he loves you. Not true. He needs to feel superior to you. You now owe him, in his mind. Who is the fool? To him, you are.

2. You’re Worthless
Belittling your self-confidence can be have very serious consequences. Making you feel as if you are worthless without him, the controlling boyfriend will prey on times that you may be stressed the most. If you have just lost a job, or if you are experiencing normal hormonal reactions, this is the time he will strike. He wants you to feel as if life is not worth living without him. It’s hard to believe, but his confidence level is actually lower than yours.

1. No Means No
This is the most upsetting trait that a controlling boyfriend can display. If he forces you to do things, against your will, he is not in love with you. Whether it is going to a baseball game, when you hate outdoor stadiums, or, even more harsh an act, makes you perform sexually against your will, he is NOT in love with you. Not showing you the courtesy to respect your wishes is not a behavior that goes away. This will continue as an abusive relationship, where you will be treated as an object, instead of a person.
In conclusion, we all need to feel love in our lives. We all can find love in so many people that are in our lives already. Make sure you listen to the advice of your family and friends. They know you best, and care about you more than the rude, violent, controlling boyfriend that buys you the same cheap flowers after an altercation. You should always remember to respect yourself, and not be fooled into believing that you are any less of a person than anyone else. Put yourself on a pedestal, and never let any boyfriend make you feel as if you don’t belong there

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